I am back in the swing of things...back on the supplements for 3 days, libido is increasing again (just as you predict-right before my period)! And, I found my book!!

A few questions...

1)since my orgasms at this point are clitoral, I am concerned about the 'quota' you mention in your book. It's funny because I've always felt that to be true. I'd have orgasm easily, if it had been a while, then they'd get more difficult to achieve as the week went on, I'd say it was like I could only have so many a week. I am 38. I've had three this week and feel like I've reached my max. Now I'll stress this weekend during sex thinking I'm done.

2)I always feel more pleasure with intercourse if I haven't had a clitoral orgasm. This poses a dilemma now. I've been close to what I think is a vaginal orgasm a few times. My partner is very eager to please me and I'm always first on the list. However, if I don't have a vaginal orgasm during sex, pleasing me is pretty much out of the question when we're finished. So, we are both hesitant to skip the clitoral orgasm up front. However, I think the risk might be well worth it in the long run. Is it normal for one to feel less vaginal pleasure with intercourse after a clitoral orgasm?

Why not get both things to work together? Men generally have a higher capacity for orgasms than women do for clitoral orgasms (vaginal--that's an entirely different story ).

So tell him that every other time you have sex is vaginal orgasm practice time, and you are deliberately not going to orgasm. Of course if you end up orgasming after all, that's fine too. If you want to heighten your arousal during intercourse, you can try the coital alignment technique. Women are different from men, we just don't have the same orgasmic capacity, at least when it comes to the clitoris, unless we use vibrators.

Perhaps I am thinking about this too much but I am frustrated!

I have come so close to what I think is a vaginal orgasm a handful of times but I just can't get past the 'hump'. The last time was almost three weeks ago and I get so frustrated!! I have been taking all the supplements regularly for a good two weeks. I only took about 10 days off in the last 7 weeks.

I have been using the GyneFlex for probably 4 weeks, usually 3 times a week. I don't see that much difference in my 'flexing' ability. However, I am using the level 4.

I definitely notice an increases interest but that was really never the problem. Clitoral orgasms are easier to achieve, but the limitations on frequency is a problem for me. I would LOVE to have sex every day but it is a problem because I know I can't have orgasm every time. My fiance just doesn't understand because his ex was orgasmic every time.

Is it possible my mental state is prohibiting me from going all the way!?!?!

When I say it's typical for women to see results in six weeks or less, I am referring to libido increase and easier orgasms. Gaining a newfound ability to have vaginal orgasms generally takes several months at a minimum; it takes time for your body to wake up to it. Keep doing what you are doing, and frustration is a good sign. The body gearing up to have these can make the mind feel a little grouchy, from the built-up sexual energy.

Particularly stay with the Gyneflex exercises--those are the key to it.

OH!!! I wonder if that is one of the reasons I've been so grouchy and miserable lately? I'm in the middle of a job hunt (been laid of since Oct.) and that most definitely isn't helping either. Hmm... Something else to think about because we haven't been active much these past few months; I haven't wanted to for various reasons and hadn't felt any need for lovin' either.

So maybe my mind/body is 'waking up'! I like that idea!!