I obviously don't know your ex. But what an ingrate.

If I understand correctly you began this journey in an effort to make your relationship and marriage better, as in sex life, and he gets all weird about it and you end up divorced over your pursuit to understand and improve your sex life.

My hubby really digs my orgasms. If he had it his way he would like me to enjoy two or three or more (most likey more).

He has pursuaded me on occasion to go for another after the first. I always resist because I am not sure I will be able to.

But sometimes I am glad he coaxed me, cuz the second one is sometimes much better that the first one. Not always but sometimes.

Sometimes it is more intense and other times it just lasts a long time. And other times it just ho-hum. I never know what is going to happen.

Yeah, Marrena's hubby has passed up a chance in a life-time. A chance a lot of men would gladly die for... But why she is single now, is one of life's great mysteries

My goodness! Well thank you.

Exciting news to report: I had my first erotic dream this last week!

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I have been experimenting with my EPA/DHA.

I got some Carlson DHA 500 caps and have been changing my daily dosage to 1662 mg of EPA and 2508 mg of DHA. So now I have about a 1.5 ratio of DHA to EPA instead of the other way around.

Did I have it backwards before (the ratio of EPA to DHA)?

As I mentioned I had my a sexy dream last week. And have had a couple since then.

I came felt sexy and even dressed in my pretties at night. But I made the mistake of telling my husband earlier in the evening that I was very tired.

When he hears me say this he has learned not to approach me because I always have gotten annoyed when he would approach me for sex when I had told him I was tired. Well I was tired but I still wanted sex anyway, but he didn't come to bed till later--he didn't know.

I did the same thing the next night (dressed in lingerie) hoping for some action. But my 18yr old daughter ask him to help her with her computer right at bedtime. He didn't know I need his help too, so we missed out again.

The next night was the same day as my work out and I have told him in the past to never "bother me" on work out days. So he didn't come to bed until late and neither did I (come that is).

Now it was the weekend and I had a girlfriend visiting from out of town for our regular scrapbook get together. So I was out late every night.

But I took Monday off from work (to recover from my all day and nite scrapbook marathon)AND was rested and revved up and ready to go (or come if you will) and I let him know it.

We frolicked in the afternoon and I made him promise to not to climax so we could play some more after the kids were in bed. So we frolicked and I had a wonderful orgasm and we played some more that nite.

I wasn't sure I would be able to orgasm again, but I did and it was very nice.

Then last night hubby approached me again and I was game for a 'quickie'. Again I was unsure if I could O again. But what do you know I did!

I'm not sure how long it took but it wasn't real long like I feared and it also felt terrific and I even dozed off afterwards for a few minutes (something I rarely do).

So I guess its back to my question, did I have the ratio backwards or does it just depend on the person?

Well that's wonderful! That is an issue with retraining the men, when "I'm tired," changes from not tonight to let's be quick about it!

You are taking a LOT of DHA for your weight. I can't in good conscience recommend that. The ratio found in nature is 1.5 EPA to 1 DHA. You are taking double the amount of DHA I recommend for someone your weight. I think women can occasionally take double the dose of DHA for a special occasion, but I worry taking that much every day might have health effects.

My orginal dosage was 2160 EPA and 1440 DHA. This was recommended by my wellness coach and have been taking it for months with no ill effects (actually many healthy effects). Wtih my daily dosage now of 1662 mg of EPA and 2508 mg DHA I am experiencing the wonderful sexual benefits.

Are you saying there could be negative side effects from the high doses of fish oil or just the high levels of DHA? (btw the fish oil I use is certified to be mercury and contaminate free)

The high dose of fish oil, not specifically DHA.

If your wellness coach gave you the okay, then I feel more comfortable, if he/she is a trained nutritionist.

Negative health effects mainly have to do with the blood thinning action of fish oil. Check to see if you get a cut that it stops bleeding normally, and watch out for excessive bruising.

I asked my wellness coach about the blood thinning and fish oil.

He got quite exsperated. He says what fish oil does is make the blood slipperier (more slippery) not make it thin.

He also said that the American Heart Association recommends dosages of between 2000 mg and 4000 mg of EPA and DHA for people with high triglicerides (that's me). He keeps reassuring me that becuase my HDL levels are now so high (73 at last check) I should not worry and the fish oil is doing its job.

My current daily dosage of 1662 mg of EPA and 2508 mg DHA is well within the AHA recommeded ranges so I am not concerned.

I have not notice any problems with bruising and I haven't cut myself recently.

I am still not sure on the ratio question. Should the EPA be 1.5 times the DHA or is it the DHA should be 1.5 times the EPA?

I was at the EPA 1.5 times the DHA, but now my dosage is the DHA is 1.5 times the EPA and that's when I started noticing the sex benefits.

I just re-read the posts and I see I missed your answer. You clearly said it is 1.5 EPA to 1 DHA.

Sorry I missed it. I guess because I didn't get the sex benefits unitl I upped my DHA I wasn't clear.

Every person's body is different. You are taking about the amount of EPA I recommend, I wouldn't go over. And if the DHA is working for you and you feel comfortable following your coach's advice, then why not?

But he is wrong about fish oil and blood-clotting

http://www.drweil.com/drw/u/QAA400343/Are-Blood-Thinnin...ments-Dangerous.html

Its funny how two people can read the same thing and get the opposite understanding.

I read the info at the link you provided and I got the impression DR Weil is not all that concerned about supplements thinning blood, only if a person is already taking a blood thinning drug.

quote:

"several supplements can increase the risk of bleeding through an anti-coagulant effect, but they rarely cause problems either alone or in combination."

quote:

I doubt that any supplements or foods were responsible for the excessive bleeding you experienced.

I take coq10 too but I am not on any blood thinning drugs. I not sure if blood thinning and anti coagulating are the same as slipperier and less clumping (this is how my coach describes the effect of fish oil).