This comment/question is not for the faint of heart. I am wondering if the diet will help my problem and if not maybe you have some suggestions.

I am 25 years old. It has been two and a half years since my last orgasm. I used to have vaginal orgasms, however infrequent. I can't remember how intense they were. It is at this point, two and a half years ago, when my boyfriend at the time wanted to try anal sex. Though I was skeptical and kind of grossed out at first I found that I enjoyed anal sex very much. Orgasms were easy to achieve and powerful. I lost my ability to achieve orgasm through normal vaginal/clitoral means. Now I am with a man that I love. It really hurts his ego to know that he can't give me a vaginal orgasm. I want more than anything to orgasm. Anal sex however makes me feel dirty. It also makes me feel that my partner, in a way, is also dirty. There has got to be a way to get my orgasm back. Do you think your book will help, or am I a lost cause?

If you don't mind, I am going to delete your double post.

I have to say I'm a bit skeptical of your story. Something in me is saying you might be a fifty-year-old guy pretending to be a girl with this problem.

At your age you shouldn't be worrying about vaginal orgasms at all if you are having trouble with clitoral orgasms. Clitoral orgasms are the gold standard. Start reading naughty stories, fantasizing, and masturbating your clitoris. If you have low libido, my diet will help. If you need stronger stimulation to break the ice after so long, get a vibrator and use it on your clitoris.

wow! ya know is the first time i have ever reached out to someone about this problem so its a little disconcerting to hear such a cold response. thanks for the advice.

I'm not a trained sexual therapist. I know nutrition and sexual physiology. I apologize for my lack of warmth or whatever it is you were looking for.

Being anally orgasmic isn't all that unusual. I am. I don't consider it dirty at all. But being solely anally orgasmic is extremely unusual. I just think you need to give the regular ways of orgasming a better chance, that's all.

I am sorry if I offended you. It’s just that the topic is rather taboo and there isn't really an outlet for Q&A. Thank you for your input. It is nice to know that I’m not some sort of freak. I do have genuine concerns about my sexual preference. Maybe you can refer me to a sex therapist or a good blog for these kinds of questions. This is the first time I’ve used a blog and I do think the anonymous nature of it will be a comforting sounding board for me.

I know you have real concerns here and I really should stop smiling. You certainly haven't offended me. From my point of view it's like a young man saying, "My goodness, I've found I like very much to have my penis sucked--does this make me a deviant person?" I mean, the typical person really into this sort of thing is male. A lot of men go absolutely bananas over women who like anal, and a woman who orgasms from anal is like the Holy Grail of girlfriends. That's why I suspected you were an old guy at first, because it is so very common.

Of course, you don't want to lose the dirty feeling completely, because that can help make sex really hot--dirty as in naughty and sex positive. And if you are worried about santorum, you can always enema first (although most women don't). And of course you should always go slow at first to avoid damaging that inner ring, waiting for it to relax and always use lots and lots of lube.

But there's nothing dirty dirty about anal sex. Posting on messageboards for advice might be good, but I think first you need to immerse yourself in sex-positive, woman-positive culture. Rachel Kramer Bussell is a very good start

http://www.rachelkramerbussel.com/writing/columns.php

Also she went on my diet and endorsed my book--she responded. Betty Dodson, Annie Sprinkle, Susie Bright--read them. Grab onto female pleasure with both hands.

So honestly, from my point of view, aside from a little attitude adjustment, the only thing I see as a problem here is a difficulty with clitoral orgasms. Anal pleasure as a problem isn't even on my radar. Get my book and read the chapter on clitoral orgasms.