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Originally posted by darsemnos:

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Originally posted by Southern Belle:
Absolutely, Michele. It is just amazing to me how many men will not get a vasectomy - as if it will make them less of a man. If they would only realize how much it means to their women, it might actually enhance their sex lives!!

It's not about being less of a man. At least as a man I don't think it's that. It's about people going in and doing surgery down there. Surely you can understand not wanting someone to cut things in that area. No matter how little risk there may be, something could go wrong.

Not that I would advocate the pill either. It seems unwise to mess with human biochemistry that way.

I'm looking for a middle way too. I'm (litteraly) sick and tired of side-effects so now I'm looking into the Fertility Awareness Method. I'm not doing the pill anymore, I wouldn't want to risk using only a condom on a day I'm ovulating (yaik) but vasectomy is not an option either because my boyfriend loves kids- and he doesn't have one (or more) yet. I'm still in college and unmarried so he can keep that dream for a while longer. Haha, at least seven years I think/hope.

So I'm now reading a book called 'Taking Charge Of Your Fertility' by Toni Weschler (I never heard of her before, but maybe you do) and its facinating. (But big! Almost 500 pages and bible-sized!) The book is pretty anti-side-effect and indeed makes me wonder if I should have to suffer heavy side-effects of something like the pill 30 days a cycle while I'm only 5 days fertile. I'm only 3 weeks off the pill and I already feel like transforming into me (I felt disconnected from everything and myself on the pill) again.

But contraception is a choice everyone has to make within their own spectrum of needs and wishes. I'm charting my basal temps and fluids, but some women may think thats too much of a hassle.

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Originally posted by darsemnos:
It's not about being less of a man. At least as a man I don't think it's that. It's about people going in and doing surgery down there. Surely you can understand not wanting someone to cut things in that area. No matter how little risk there may be, something could go wrong.

Unfortunately, the are men who do think that way. One of the vets I work with is married to one. But I do agree that for most men, it's more the fear of someone taking a scalpel and messing with their junk. And as someone who has had two unplanned c-sections, the first an emergency and the second a failed VBAC attempt, I fully understand how scary surgery is. Believe me, I do!

And, Hollie, I think for some women it seems like a big hassle, but for a lot of women it may just be too hard to keep track of temps and signals from your body. If you're a busy mom of two small kids for example. Or if you're a woman who has wonky cycles. It's funny, I always had trouble charting my cycles due to being busy and having irregular ones, but now that I've been off BCP for almost 7 years and am almost 2 years out from pregnancy/breastfeeding my cycles are very regular and I can tell when I'm ovulating. It's nice to be so in-tune with my body.

I know what you mean and your right. If your a woman with two small kids, of which one has nightmares and the other one is just an early waker, its hard to get the 5 hours sleep in a row (so no temping). It has to be hard to have two small kids and a job and a social life and cooking and the dishes and sport, and, and, and...

Lets just say I really do respect those mom's. I don't think I could do it.