Well, the diet is going well, I got my GyneFlex, trained four times now and I'm almost able to shut the #5. I take the supplements (my multivitamins had ginko and ginseng though so I got another brand) but the actual food is still a little hard for me, but I say to myself, anytime I want carbs, were taking it slow.

And... I already have some results. I am getting way more sensitive and I'm starting to have erotic dreams. (They are very weird though, the first one was with some handsome bald guy who seemed to be like 50, but I didn't seem to mind until I woke up )

So I went to the gynaecologist, my doctor on the birthcontrol part, and I said I still had pain during sex and I was going to quit birthcontrolpills and wanted something else lie a cervical cap. Well, that hit the spot, she was a little speachless at first. The talk started about how the pill would change absolutely nothing about my sex-life (!!!) and certainly wouldn't reduce pain. (Although dozens of women on the internet can tell the diffrence by experience)

And of course about how I should relax more (that sentence is a real killer, I feal incredibly stupid hearing that all the time. This time I almost screamed- I AM RELAXED! OKAY!? but that would have confirmed her point.) I said (for the thousand time) I do relax well and later in the examinationroom I proved it to her.

She wanted to have a look down there. Well, after a while she found something. It appears my maidenhead/hymen is still there! Well, not compeletly intact, but it seems to have hardened a bit and it won't strech as much as the rest down there, causing pain and causing me to be not very eager to have sex.

Oh. Thats not good news and not something the Orgasmic Diet can cure (?). The gyn said the tissue had to just dissapear by having sex. (like I didn't do it enough) She prescribed to me -this is kind of the amazing part- a numbing gel. Thats right, so I can't feel anything down there anymore and after a while hopefully the pieces of maidenhead dissapear. (Thats a lot of staring at the ceiling, but I didn't know what to say or ask after that)

If not, I have to go in surgery. And thats it.

I'm actually thinking the pill is responseble for this. The pill hardens the tissue in the vagina and further, isn't it? So the egg won't be able to nestle in the uterus? Could I be right?

I'm still, agains the strong advice of the gynaecologist, not going to take my next strip of pills. Maybe I 'unharden' down there and the maindenhead dissapears miraculously.

Is my theory a possibility?

I hate to go against the advice of your gynecologist. I am surprised she was so hostile to the idea of barrier methods--did you tell her you would be using both a condom and a cervical cap at the same time?

You can stretch out your hymen yourself, using condom-covered carrots and lube. Just get the appropriate-sized carrot, condom it, lube it up and insert, leaving it in for twenty minutes or so while you watch TV or read a book or something. Gradually increase the diameter over time and voila. I know it sounds silly, but can't hurt to try.

Well, don't hate it, I really appreciate your opinion about it. Actually I thought the solution the gynecologist gave me was ridiculous. Feeling nothing is not exactly what I want from being intimate with my boyfriend. And he wasn't exactly eager to make sex more one-way-street than it already was! (Deep down he feels less man because he can't really pleasure me- sweet huh?)

I was already surfing the internet for solutions and I thought dildo-in-bath, but the carrot is a very helpful, and cheap, solution. Those come in all sizes, so thanks a lot! Again!

And... I had my first clitoral orgasm without using any electricity today! WHIIIIII, I'm SO happy! I thought that would never happen anymore, that I'd ruined my chances forever with my favorite toy since I'm 14: a 220V back massager. heh. BUT today I was doing my GyneFlex exersizes while reading the clitoral 101 again and I just thought I'd give it a shot. Of course the fact that I didn't have an orgasm in over three weeks sort of made me and it wasn't the best orgasm ever, but I'm really exited to exploid this to the very bottem...

Oh, congratulations!

I am new to this site and the diet, but I can relate to so many of these posts. When I went to my gynecologist and told her I wanted to stop taking birth control pills due to menstrual migraines, she quickly told me to stay on them and gave me a prescription for Imitrex. When I got home, my husband and I decided that the drug companies have taken over and the doctors are getting too much pressure to prescribe their drugs. I promptly threw away the prescription, tossed my BCP's and my hubby started using condoms. After a while, he decided to get a vasectomy rather than have me go through getting my tubes tied - I'm a very lucky woman!

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Originally posted by Southern Belle:
I am new to this site and the diet, but I can relate to so many of these posts. When I went to my gynecologist and told her I wanted to stop taking birth control pills due to menstrual migraines, she quickly told me to stay on them and gave me a prescription for Imitrex. When I got home, my husband and I decided that the drug companies have taken over and the doctors are getting too much pressure to prescribe their drugs. I promptly threw away the prescription, tossed my BCP's and my hubby started using condoms. After a while, he decided to get a vasectomy rather than have me go through getting my tubes tied - I'm a very lucky woman!

My first thought is: 'Oh, thats very sweet'. And my second thought is: 'Why do I think thats sweet? You have certainly done your suffering, now its only fair he gets to do something too.' But as long as women carry the babies I guess ultimately it will always be more our responsibility than theirs.

Hahaha, I started thinking about my gynecologist as if she were a salesperson at the cosmeticscounter. Yes, she can make me buy stuff without protesting, but she cannot make me actually use it! By the way, I still have the prescription for the numbing gel. As long as I think there are other ways, I'm not going to get the gel.

I never know how to say 'NO!' to the gynecologist. In some ways I need her, and she does have all the knowledge and I'm just some teenager, you know? That makes it hard to express opinion or doubt.

After a while of me being very brave and still saying; I'm going to quit BCP's (OK, I gave an inch, I said temporarely) she didn't get irritated, surprisingly. She's a very sweet woman and she said that I had to just think about it a little longer and that I could make another appointment in a few weeks if I really were to quit BCP's, she would size me a cervical cap. (Which I told her, I would be using with a condom) She said that without any mean words about my age or sniffing so it will be fine if I go for a cap in a few weeks. I think the government presses the doctors to prescribe HBC so the abortionrate stays relatively low.

About the carrots; I keep eating them! I use one piece which of course I throw away and then the next day I think, oh, we still have carrots! I like eating carrots so at dinner my boyfriend is now like:"Are we eating your dildo's?" and I'm like "Yep"

That's hilarious!

OMG! That is so funny!

And to Southern Belle, the vasectomy is the greatest thing since sliced bread isn't it? I was so happy when my husband finally got that done almost 2 years ago. I find it so liberating! LOL!

Absolutely, Michele. It is just amazing to me how many men will not get a vasectomy - as if it will make them less of a man. If they would only realize how much it means to their women, it might actually enhance their sex lives!!

"It is just amazing to me how many men will not get a vasectomy"

Here is one reason. There are many similar...
http://www.wddty.com/03363800370527738750/prostate-cancer-vasectomy-link.html

Ha! I wonder if tháts the reason or if men just find it easier to not go in surgery/keep the birtcontrolpart the women's responsibility.

Don't get me wrong, its a good reason to have doubts about vasectomy. But I wonder how many (vasectomy refusing-) men actually know about those healthrisks...

I think the women with such a loving HB willing to do that are indeed lucky...

"I think the women with such a loving HB willing to do that are indeed lucky..."

Or maybe they just take care when selecting their men. My wife and I used condoms for many years until the meopause set us free. In my opinion the slight dulling of sensitivity which comes with wearing a condom is not a high price to pay in return for having a woman who really enjoys sex, not to mention the other health benefits.

Than you are a really great guy! Lots of Boyfriends are pressing their girlfriends to take birthcontrolpills so they don't have to use a condom.

I would leave in an instant or maybe first explain what the pill does to women and make a dicision based on his reaction. I mean; its the diffrence between selfish and caring. I don't know why girls would like to stay with a selfish guy, but unfortunately lots of girls do.

I think in case of the vasectomy its for lots of guys more the fear of having to go in
surgery rather than selfishness. But I don't know that its just a feeling.

As in all things, one should always do your research and make an informed decision, which is what the husband and I did when choosing the vasectomy route. I did not mean to imply that it is the best choice for everyone. For us it was and we couldn't be happier about it, but I don't think men who don't want to go that route are selfish. There are many reasons for not wanting to do it and it's a personal decision.

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Originally posted by Southern Belle:
Absolutely, Michele. It is just amazing to me how many men will not get a vasectomy - as if it will make them less of a man. If they would only realize how much it means to their women, it might actually enhance their sex lives!!

It's not about being less of a man. At least as a man I don't think it's that. It's about people going in and doing surgery down there. Surely you can understand not wanting someone to cut things in that area. No matter how little risk there may be, something could go wrong.