2 nights ago I had managed to have an orgasm without ejaculation during sex by stoping the flow with a strong contraction of the PC muscle while doing also the "big draw technique" (which is described in tao books). I was practicing during masturbation before this

And how it was??? Completly different. No refractory period. No loss of feelings, stamina, lust.

I kept going on for about 10 minutes and then had to stop due to physical exhaustion. But suddenly I was feeling very satisfied. Much more than ever before. The weird instant feeling after orgasm has gone. Especially the no loss of feelings was very interesting.

So what's this all about?? Well it's about monogamy and how the effect of dopamine somehow forces us to mate with new partners. In other words to look for new dopamine highs.

There is one interesting web on this http://www.reuniting.info/ and it talks about neurochemistry during sex. It says that to mantain complete satisfaction the couple should learn a kind of pseudo-tantra but not reach orgasms because of the neurochemistry effects.

Now for me the old orgasm is definitely inferior. The new orgasm does seems perfect and it really kept me satisfied. So why not reaching orgasms? The purpose of tao practices is teaching the body not to have sex for the purpose of multiplying but for pure enjoyment. Tantra teaches us to have really intense sex.

I was talking about this with my soon to be sexuologist friend and he is very interested since I described him the non-ejaculatory orgasm that happened to me. We talked about it and were reading the stuff on the website that seem quite logical but there was alot of catches.

Any ideas Zane? Do typical female orgasms cause loss of feelings for the partner? Do they make you feel somehow weirdly unsatisfied and cold?? Or are women programed that if they have an orgasm with a partner they are becoming more bonded to the guy because they somehow chose him as the perfect male to mate with and raise the offspring. I guess some of my male insecurity is talking right now

I don't think it's the dopamine. I think it's the prolactin that's the issue. My diet raises dopamine.

Also I think that male orgasms correspond to clitoral orgasms and male prostate orgasms correspond to vaginal orgasms.

I'm really not good on the whole philosophy of sex and teaching tantra. Not qualified to give that sort of advice. I'm more of a nuts and bolts physiology sort of person. I will say I think the world would be a better place if men all followed what you are doing. Just don't fall off the other side of the horse. Women need that ejaculation energy and stopping ejaculating isn't healthy. Best to ejaculate at least once a week.

But yes, tantric men are the ultimate, at least from my point of view.

And shameful confession, the more vaginal orgasms I have focused on a man, the more feelings I have for him.

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And shameful confession, the more vaginal orgasms I have focused on a man, the more feelings I have for him.

Now this is something I was asking my love too. And her reaction was the same. I was the first guy with which she had an vaginal orgasm and after the sex she told me she is overjoyed that it finaly happened. And now that we learned how to have really satysfying vaginals (even without clitoral first) I also asked her about her feelings during or after sex. She said that her feelings are somehow stronger for me after it

I would love to brag about how i'm good in bed (how i know how to make the mood, how i can hit all the spots, how I can feel the woman's tempo and adjust to it with ease and etc etc) but still I guess it's you women who decide if you're going to have an orgasm with a partner or not. Up till now i've been with 5 women (i regret having sex with 3 of them.. it wasn't THAT whorish but still it wasn't the right thing to do) and I was asking them what was wrong why didn't they have orgasm and 2 of them told me they didn't allow themselves to have it. They said it so instantly that it looked like an instinct. But they also said it was the best sex ever but only in physical terms (ok ok had to do good to my male ego).

If all men started doing what should have been done the world would probably collapse. At the moment this world is way off the balance but as all nature mechanisms it heads into homeostasis. Yeah it IS totaly spoiled and something big has to happen for things to change.
Evolution. Things have to go bad first and only after that they can go more perfect Things can also get so bad that everything can have a quick ending