Question: In your research, and perhaps, personal experience, have you found it to be beneficial for a man to repress his ejaculation even in a high state of arousal? I ask this because I’m using a prostate stimulator and working to achieve (dry) multiple orgasms, but to date, other than some euphoric feelings, I haven’t had one of these types of orgasm yet.
What has happened is I’m left so powerfully aroused, that I have to go manual for a release. You've provided some great suggestion in other posts – but I’m particularly interested in what you might suggest here.
Also - Is there a routine to consider just before a session, (eat some chocolate, take fish oil, etc.?) I do know that being aroused and getting into a relaxed state is important and not rushing things along.
Well if you are interested in traditional orgasms, can't beat the Fleshlight. I hear good things about the Wonder Wave and Speed Bump. You can keep it wrapped up in a heating pad set on low until you are ready, so you can go from Aneros to Fleshlight.
As for tweaking it--probably best bet would be in the morning, after you've had breakfast and your digestive system has done its morning thing. Take as much of your daily DHA as you can, eat some dark chocolate. Don't eat anything starchy or sugary for breakfast, although fruit like orange juice is okay. Scrambled eggs in butter is good, don't be mingy on the saturated fat. No coffee, obviously, and no more than an ounce of quality dark chocolate (the sugar in the dark chocolate is fine). Take a long hot bath--not sure what would be a good scent for men for bath oil. Pumpkin pie spice smells are supposed to arouse men, which I find hilarious! Also vanilla and lavender. Then go back to bed naked with the Aneros, and keep your feet warm with warm socks, hooking yourself up to the Brainsync CD. Fantasize about a woman experiencing the sensations you are feeling. And of course, relax.
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Yes, I discovered the Fleshlight a few years ago, and found it to be a wonderful tool. There are times when it comes close to replicating the sensations of being inside a woman so completely that one’s hard pressed not to ejaculate after a few strokes. These orgasms are great, but I want something more.
I want to move into the prostate stimulated orgasm – and for now, I’ll steer clear of the Fleshlight. I want to concentrate on stimulating myself to a new level of sensation and release, and to do that, I have to discover the right combination of activities that will trigger these “dry” orgasms. I have to learn some patients and, I think, engage my mind to a greater extend. I think your suggestion of adding a fantasy partner is excellent, and I’m working on opening to this special woman in my life.
This is sexy as hell - - and fun. I just need to keep breathing and engage, engage, engage.
Perhaps, as you might be suggesting, what I've been doing is starving my natural sexual tendencies by abstaining from having regular ejaculations. Are you saying that one should have sexual releases on a regular basis? I mean when a male ejaculates through masturbation, apparently there are subtle hormonal releases. Perhaps I have it all wrong and should be pleasuring myself more regularly and training my system, (which is growing more sensitive on a daily basis.) I mean I’d get-off daily (well, when I’m in the mood), if I thought it would increase my path to a super-O.
From what I’ve read, at other forums, and books is that men should reserve ejaculation for special moments. On the Aneros site – some suggest to wait a few days to a week after each session, before manually releasing, (this is for men who haven’t experiencing a Super-O.)
Personally, I’m kind of on a middle ground. Sometimes the sensation are just too much and not having an orgasm (prostate based) is deeply frustrating – so I go to manual after a session. The fish oil and chocolate have added greatly to the sensations, (but to date no Super-O.) It’s difficult being so sensitized and aroused and not getting off.
Hell if I know! I'm a girl! Women's sexual energy doesn't get depleted the same way as men's with orgasm--although I have felt the depleting effects when I ejaculate. Maybe only ejaculate after an Aneros session? I don't know the best advice for this, I would follow what the men say.
I am pretty sure you shouldn't go crazy and go for more than two weeks without ejaculating, that's just not healthy. And men under 35 shouldn't go for more than a week.
Women's sexual energy doesn't get depleted the same way as men's with orgasm--although I have felt the depleting effects when I ejaculate. Maybe only ejaculate after an Aneros session? I don't know the best advice for this, I would follow what the men say.
I have some excellent material from your book that I will incorporate into my practice.
