Oh, good! Marrena I wasn't sure if you were checking on this or not and I have a question for you (lucky you, right?!)...

Dandelion wrote that I have the lustrous eyes, glowing skin, etc and I'm not so sure I do. I've read other places where the ladies can't go a day without getting 'greasy hair',while I can easily go 2 days; and my skin is not oily in the slightest. On the other hand it isn't nearly as dry as it used to be, either. I used to have dry patches in my forehead, and my nose was sort of dry, but not really. It's difficult to explain without being disgusting. Think of a sunburn that's peeling and that's close enough. <eww..>

I still occasionally get arousal twinges, but most of the examples I wrote of in my ever-so-long post are gone. No more tingles; no more 'highs' from the DHA (unless I take 1,000mg at one time); my skin is still sensitive, but in an uncomfortable, sunburnt way; no more erotic dreams, and so on.

Do you think I need to up the dosage of FO? I've been pretty good with the foods I eat up until 2 weeks ago, and even then I'm watching what I eat and not going overboard with the carbs and such.

I'm currently taking 1941 epa, and 1759 dha daily; 1000mg calcium; a B12/Bcomplex tablet daily; and I just ran out of my daily vitamins today. I don't remember what quantity of magnesium or zinc is in there. My weight is holding at a steady 127lbs, and 26% body fat, and I'm 5'7".

I've been on this since late January, early Feb. and at a full dose of FO for over a month now.

What is your opinion?

Thank you!!!

Marky777- Thank you!

He doesn't have any problems with erections, it's just after I make it known I'd love to love him.. there is no action. We will cuddle a bit, and then he gets involved in the TV, or we start talking, or the phone rings, or... any number of things and we get sidetracked. It's as if we have forgotten how to move past the 'I want you to...' stage into the actual realm of doing it!

No, no, no... he doesfind me attractive. Calls me Sexy Cat/Babe all the time, tells me I'm beautiful, that he loves me and so on. He's been bringing me flowers he's picked from the back yard! (Sigh... fluttering eyes) So it's not that he doesn't find me attractive, it's more that I don't FEEL attractive to him because he is wanting me to initiate and that to me feels wrong on so many levels because until now he has always been the initiator.

Does that make more sense?

If I show up at your forum I'll keep the same user name, okay? I nearly got myself into a (ahem) situation emailing another guy and I'd rather keep myself out of that again, so I'll have to think about it first.

Unless you vouch for him, Marrena? Just a thought!

Gotta run. Thanks for responding, both of you!

Thanks for the clarification Huntng40s. Forget everything I said. Marrena was right. Just grab him (lucky chap)!

Hi, Huntng!! You are killing me!!

Trust me, if everything is as you say, your guy will respond to your initiation. There is NOTHING wrong with being the initiator. It doesn't have to be in a pornographic way. He clearly needs to know that you want him. Perhaps he is tired of being the one to initiate, even if that's the way it's always been. You did ask for ways to 'mix it up'. For you and him, just give it a try. I would bet a million he will not reject you!! Being 5'7" and 127 lbs. I think you should hold all the confidence you need.

Curious as to Marrena's response, but, I think the stress of looking for a job and the mind games you are playing with yourself about intimacy are what makes your libido feel dormant right now.

Just my thoughts! MP

Your fish oil dosage is just right. It sounds like your free testosterone might be low if you aren't getting oily. It's the combination of fish oil and hormones that does that to skin and hair.

Calcium on its own actually interferes with my diet. Try switching to calcium/magnesium/zinc instead of straight calcium. I know your multi already has those, but it's safe to go up to double the RDA if you are in good health and not tiny.

I of course am on the extreme end of response to my diet, so I'm not promising this as typical results, but my desire is so very high, basically for any man with a pulse and a functioning penis, that it's been years since I've had a drink in public or anything else that might loosen my inhibitions. It's totally biological--rationally I know I don't want to have sex with random men, but physically I very easily could, and enjoy myself with gusto. If you get to where I am physically, there is no possible way that you could be cuddling, unless it's post-coital!

Also, I want to reiterate, I am not putting forth my own example as one to emulate. A lot of women ask me why I keep myself so excruciatingly horny. I just want women to know what their options are, so they can adjust their sexual response to where they want it to be.

I am a female version of all those horny guy cliches, in almost every respect. I completely understand where those men are coming from now!

Okay, Marrena. Then it's back to the book for me to see what I can do to get my FreeT up to par.

I'm just about out of calcium anyway, so I'll look for a mix of the three and see how that goes. Wouldn't it be something if that were part of the problem??

I was taking 1 600mg calcium with the afternoon dosage, and another 600mg with the evening dose. I'll be stopping that today!

I had my T level tested approx. 4 1/5 years ago at my GYN's request (she is wonderful and very supportive) and we found it to be borderline low- on the verge of non-existant- and she put me on T-creme which I used for around 5-6 months. It didn't seem to help me much, and was expensive, so eventually I stopped using it. It may be time for me to check into that again.

And now that I think of it, you wrote in your book that adding some muscle might help raise a low T-level; guess I really do need to get back into the gym!

Thank you yet again for your quick responses and your willingness to help all of us out at the expense of your personal time. I do appreciate it!

Hey MP! <LOL> Why am I killing you?? Ahhh well, hope it's in a good way!

quote:

Trust me, if everything is as you say, your guy will respond to your initiation

That's the point, though. He doesn't respond to my advances.

Well, except for this morning...

Even so, he was the one to initiate. I just let him know that I was appreciating his touches and would be most happy to continue, which we did. 2 hours later! He decided he wanted a shower first (very considerate of him), then was hungry, then needed to get going in to the office (he's been sick these past few days and out of the office. And he seems to have given it to me now. Blech!), but I slowed him down long enough to re-gain his attention and we proceeded to enjoy each other.

Sadly enough for me it wasn't so enjoyable. No O's. <sigh> It did feel good, though.

At any rate we did connect and he promised me a rematch when he gets home tonight if I'm up to it which, considering how I feel now, may not happen.

Okay, my mind is getting fuzzy again and I think I better just sign off before I start writing gobbledy-gook.

Oops, too late!

One last thing- Marky777 I hope I didnt' offend you with my comment about checking up on you.

I did have problems with another person I was emailing- things got out of control and I was beginning to wnder if he was going to stalk me. not pretty. Scary, too.

Kay, nap time for me!

First try getting your SHBG down as low as possible so you can utilize what T you have. That is done by avoiding hormonal birth control, taking the calcium/magnesium/zinc, and avoiding starchy or sugary foods.

However if your total T is very low to begin with, my diet has difficulties. Putting on muscle and eating good fats like monounsaturated and saturated fats may help somewhat, but you might need testosterone replacement therapy if all of the above doesn't help.

Hunting -

No problem! check away...

I will get started with the fats, the extra supplements, and will get back to the gym as soon as I'm feeling better; I'm hoping that will help bring up the free T to a higher level without resorting to TRT.

I think the reason the TRT didn't work when I first tried it is because my diet consisted of starchy foods, and pastries, and junk and.... No wonder I didn't have good results with it!

I'll keep you posted as to how things are going for me.

Yes, Dr. Irwin Goldstein at one point was recommending my diet to his patients who were on TRT, to help with the side effect of compensating SHBG.

Keep me posted!