Anyone here never ever had an orgasm before (like me)?

Hi Fishy,

Sorry nobody has responded as I do believe there are alot of women who have never had an orgasm. My understanding is there are different versions of being anorgasmic. Primary anorgasmic meaning a women has never had an orgasm - by herself, with a partner, with the help of a toy etc.. I think a lot of women fall into this category but the majority just haven't found how to bring themselves to orgasm yet. I believe I read once that probably only 5% of women are truly anorgasmic so if you have not achieved orgasm in any way I suggest you keep trying. See you doctor and have your hormones levels checked, analyze your diet, other prescription medications you are on etc to see if that is limiting you. Also consider emotional and relationship issues. Trust in a relationship is a huge factor for some women to let go and climax. Continue to try to pleasure yourself - use fantasy, toys and other ways to help you relax and bring yourself to orgasm.

The other type is Seconday Anorgasmic where a women at one point in her life was able to orgasm but now can't. Again, there could be many reason for this. Frustrating when you know what you are missing but I know that never having had an orgasm is frustrating too. I used to wonder what was 'wrong' with me. I can manually or orally but not with intercourse and still find that very frustrating like I am missing out on a big present everyone else is getting except me.

Keep searching as you deserve this pleasure in your life but also don't be too hard on yourself as the stress and anxiety just makes it worse. Try to be persistent without pressuring yourself.

Thanks Mary

What are the details here Fishy? Have you never, ever had one using any means? What have to tried in order to have orgasms? Have you had any injuries in the past which could be contributing?

I've taken 4 OmegaRX capsules for about a month. My diet was ok. Not great, not bad. Didn't feel like masturbating any more than usual, so I pretty much didn't masturbate. Is it really important to be highly turned on to have an orgasm?

Hmm. Are you less than 160 pounds? And you are getting 1600 mg of EPA and 800 mg of DHA with that dosage, correct?

Also, have you tried using a good vibrator?

I'm about 125 pounds. If I can get orgasms with a vibrator (haven't tried one yet), how much of that improvement carries over to sex?

My book explains everything in detail. I don't want to have to repeat myself here. If you have questions about what I wrote, I'm happy to answer them here.

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Yeah Fishy, having just finished the book I know that Marrena talks about vibrators and orgasms in particular in detail. You would benefit. Sounds to me like you may need to have your hormone levels checked.

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Originally posted by Fishy:
I'm about 125 pounds. If I can get orgasms with a vibrator (haven't tried one yet), how much of that improvement carries over to sex?

Sounds to me like you may need to get a vibrator and read the Clitoral 101 from the Orgasmic Diet.

A few weeks ago a documentairy about female orgasms was on tv. In that program a girl came in and told the expert she wanted to have orgasms without a vibrator! The expert basically said: 'She wants the fairy-tale. Only 30% of women are able to orgasm during sex without any use of toys.' The expert and the girl tried to make her come without toys but in the end she couldn't. So the expert gave the girl a vibrator and the girl accepted that she couldn't come without a vibrator.

Another woman came in in that program who, a woman in late 30's, and she never had an orgasm of any kind before. The expert gave her a vibrator and, what-do-ya-know, the woman had an orgasm.

Seriously- don't give up before you've tried a good vibrator! (btw, good doesn't always mean expensive) Marrena recommends the Hitachi Magic Wand I believe?

You buy a good vibrator, put it on your clit the way you like it, the way it feels good. You don't even have to move. Then you just wait and concentrate on what you feel in that tiny spot. Just try it!

BTW, even on the pill with a total lack of libido I could come using a very strong vibrator. Are hormone levels tied to orgasmic ability? I thought that was more the libido.

Yes, the basic gist of my advice is first to use a vibrator to feel what an orgasm feels like, and then once you know what you are aiming for, try for the same thing using your hands. Once you can reliably give yourself an orgasm with your hands, you can transition to having one during sex.