Hi, Zaneblue. I cannot have a clitoral orgasm unless I am in the missionary position and doing it myself. I don't think I have ever had a vaginal orgasm either. I am becoming frustrated especially when my significant other goes down there and nothing happens. I enjoy the thoughts and watching him, but I just never seem to be able to orgasm. I have to rub it a certain way, my legs have to be straight and then I can have an orgasm. We were together 7 years, had a year off and are back together again. I have 2 children with him and we are actually expecting another one, so I was concerned if using the gyneflex would be safe during this time. I am only 6 weeks along, so I was hoping I could get a gyneflex soon and start working on improving the muscle tone. And that is the other issue, I notice how much looser my vagina is and at times when I am so wet, I can't really feel him and I am sure he feels the same, he just doesn't tell me. I enjoy sex very much and used to read many books in my early college years to educate myself, but I still could never have a vaginal orgasm, have never found my g-spot etc.....I feel like I am missing out and I feel inadequate.
Don't feel inadequate. Vaginal orgasms should be a fun extra, not an expectation. Clitoral orgasms are still the gold standard. Check with your obstetrician about using the Gyneflex, and of course if he says no, certainly do lots of Kegels.
Pregnancy is a good time to work on clitoral orgasms because oftentimes the pregnancy hormones make them easier. When you say you can only do them yourself, does that mean alone? Try mutual masturbation sessions. And when you are alone masturbating try changing the position of your legs and your body. By cutting back on your orgasmic frequency a bit, you might find things easier--build up a little orgasmic steam.
Once you get comfortable having orgasms in front of him, show him exactly how you stimulate yourself with your hands and have him do it to you. Forget oral for a while. During this time you might want to cut back on masturbation orgasms. Also you can experiment with bringing yourself to the edge and have him manual stimulate you to orgasm the last few seconds.
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